Making the plans is the easy part.
Sticking to the plans is where things can get tricky.
Getting invited or asked on a date gives a sense of acceptance and likeability.
Who wants to hang outwith someone they don’t like?
Then there’s the even stronger possibility of another event popping up that might be of greater importance.
Now you’re double booked with one choice to make: Who or what is worthy of your time?
There are those who often say yes to things they really want to say no to.
It’s certainly a blow to the ego andcould hurt the friendshipdepending on the strength of the connection beforehand.
Research fromMichigan State Universityeven suggests not lying about why you canceled your plans.
You messed up and are aware of your actions.
Put your pride aside and own it.
Who knows your friend might flake on you the next time around, and that’s okay.
The beauty of flaking is that we all do it and can relate.
If you already got caught flaking, playing sick is clearly not an option.
At that point, it’s time to come up with a better reason.
Flaking in adulthood is easy since most of us have to work to make a living.
Maybe that event you posted on BeReal at the time of your girl’s night was a work obligation.
Or it’s family-related, and we all know family comes first.
It’s really all dependent on your approach and intention.
Are you coming to your friend with remorse and empathy for wasting their time?
Don’t forget they could’ve made other plans instead of penciling you into their Thursday night.
Take time to think of your excuse and be mindful of how you relay the information.
An apology might be warranted and should come before the excuse.
Just be mindful before flaking and posting to your Instagram Story.
