Attraction aside, you and your partner are going to bring your past lives with you.
For instance, you could have a habit ofmisdirecting your anger towards loved onesthat pushes your partner away.
Or, you may thinkyou always know what your partner wantsinstead of waiting for them to let you know.
But, it doesn’t mean things are destined to remain the same.
They’re not trying to attack you and make you feel like you’re the worst person on earth.
But, they are trying to express their concerns so you might see things from their standpoint.
They can be related to trauma or a bad experience you had in a former friendship or relationship.
You don’t have to figure out why you’re being triggered just yet.
Just like your partner isn’t your enemy, you aren’t either.
Another thing to remember is that self-reflection isn’t about focusing on all of the hurtful things.
It can be another way to think about your strengths and things that matter to you.
Therapist Marcelle J. Craig, LMFT, clarified this in an interview withReal Simple.
Don’t be in a rush to improve.
In theWashington Post, clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula said, “We are all moving so quickly.
And in that quickness, that really drives the stress, the anxiety, the distractions.”
That’s what makes self-awareness so profound.
