Everyone feels differently about therapy.
Thesigns that you should see a couples therapistshould probably not be ignored.
Los Angeles-based psychotherapist Darren Haber has seen this happen all too often, he writes forPsychology Today.
Can you still go?
Haber thinks you’re free to.
Perhaps you feel judged or embarrassed to talk about them.
In situations like these, going to couples therapy alone can prove beneficial for you and your partner.
Because of this, it can be difficult to show your true self to your partner.
Contrary to what you are led to believe, you don’t live and operate as separate entities.
Your actions and behaviors affect others and the environment around you.
Everyone is interconnected to a larger whole and sometimes, there are defective parts in the machine.
Does your partner talk to you in a disrespectful manner?
Do you belittle them in front of friends and family?
Do you not divide your chores in a fair way between the two of you?
However, Colleen found reasons to continue on her own.
“We spend a lot of time in marriages trying to fix the other person.
I changed my approach and decided to focus on how I can become happy,” she shared.
By going to therapy alone, she learned to make herself happy without putting that job on her husband.
It might be a good segway into meeting a professional in person.
