But, what happens once the “storm” arrives?
This adjustment period can be especially taxing on relationships.
Here’s why so many couples break up not long after welcoming home their bundle of joy.
So, is all hope lost?
Not necessarily, but, for some couples, this adjustment may prove to be too much.
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Researchers at the University of Gothenburg further studied factors that contributed to the dissolution of many parents' relationships.
One contributing factor, the researchers discovered, was “stressful conditions.”
So, yes, caring for a baby is certainly taxing.
It’s not just your newborn who’s going through those emotions.
Yet and still, it can be done.
Insufficient communication
Clinical Psychologist Mindy Schiffman has good reason to preach the values of good communication.
“It’s very normal to have a temporary downturn in relationships when the kids are young.
Commenting on it and being aware of it is key,” Walsh toldYahoo.
Additionally, Hansson recommended direct communication and using “I-messages” when bringing up a specific need.
No, she’s not talking about sending text messages to your partner.
Therapist Jason Eric Ross toldBravothat “intimacy lowers automatically” after the birth of a child.
“The emotional and physical energy normally devoted to the partners now goes to the baby.”
A “lack of intimacy” was also cited by Swedish researchers as an indicator of separation and divorce.
The Swedish study’s lead researcher, Malin Hansson, toldYahoothe secret to reviving intimacy.
“The key is sensuality in everyday life, a lot of hugs, kisses, and physical contact.
Sensuality leads to intimacy, which in turn leads to a sense of belonging and trust.”
Through her research, she realized she had been nitpicking her husband’s interactions with their new baby.
When her husband would start to change the baby’s diaper, she’d interject to correct him.
When he would get the baby dressed, she’d roll her eyes.
“As a hesitant father, this put him off and who isn’t hesitant at first?”
Although it’s perhaps impossible to avoid, “strains from parenthood” was cited as a contributing factor.
It comes from feeling alone in their journey despite being in a relationship.
The study’s lead researcher Malin Hansson explained toYahoothat splitting up tasks can reduce some of this pressure.
Nevertheless, the majority of these strains frequently fall on women.
Moms,don’tfeel guiltydoling out half of those parenting and housekeeping dutiesto Dad.
According to Psychiatrist Michael Ascher, it’s not that fathers need fewer tasks.
Rather, they should to be involved with such tasks from the get-go.
“That’s how you get to know your kids from the ground floor up.”
Parents.com even recommendedBoot Camp for New Dads.
At times, the counselor said they feel as though “their relationship has become very transactional.”
Despite being common, this is probably not the kind of relationship you desire to have with your partner.
To start, “building fondness and affection for your partner” will go a long way.
Of course, some couples experience a surprise pregnancy.
And, at that time, the relationship may not be struggling but is it solid?
“Having a child exposed the rift.”
In other words, don’t blame the baby.
