A gift is never just a gift, no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship.

Even cute, funny gifts like a card saying “So, like what are we?”

Unless it’s a first date,Susan Trombettisays a heart-shaped necklace is what she always suggests.

Valentine’s Day spelled out in Scrabble letters with hearts

Save the lingerie and diamonds for later on in the relationship, one relationship expert toldNew York Magazine.

Looking to make a big statement?

Susan Trombettibelieves you might and should involve the children during the day.

A couple exchanging gifts on Valentine’s Day

However, nighttime should be for the adults.

“Get a sitter,” she suggested.

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A couple exchanging gifts on Valentine’s Day

Couple smiling, looking at each other